Monday, October 22, 2018

Music Mantra Monday ~ Taking It Easy and Slowing Down

First of all, I am so sorry that we've gotten a bit behind in our posts the last week or so. It has been so busy around here that we were starting to feel like we were living in our car. Rushing around getting four kids to four different places and, naturally, in four different areas of the city induces a lot of stress, bickering, additional stressors stemming from having to be everywhere all day and overwhelming exhaustion.

When I finally got to bed on Sunday night, it dawned on me that how trying having a go-go-go routine can be on all of us, especially the kids. There were a lot of arguments, nit-picking, bitching about not listening or being ready when ordered to be. My kids were going from one event right to the next without even having time for a breather or break. We ate crap all weekend because we were never home long enough for me to fix something healthy, nor did I have time to prepare munchy snacks to tide us over like I usually do. I had to shove aside all of my work-related and personal plans and deadlines aside in order to be there and my husband had to play chauffeur because not only do we only have one functioning vehicle, I don't drive. Needless to say, none of us were even able to verbalize the words, 'good night' when we could finally rest.

Now, having said all of that, there were snippets of wonderful things that shone through. Yes, we were in a rush to get my girls to their Jiu Jitsu Symposium (which as all dang day), but I got to sit and watch them work in getting their new belts. That meant the world to me.

The kids' father's girlfriend offered to take my son and one of the daughters in the Symposium to their swimming lessons so we could get my youngest to her competition on time, plus it saved us an additional back-and-forth trip. That was nice.

My youngest got to have a sleepover with her best friend, and my other Jiu Jitsu girl got to spend time with her best friend giving me a couple of non-driving hours with my son. That was special.

On Sunday, in between taking my son for his hockey pictures, taking another daughter to a BDay party, picking my youngest up from her sleep over, going grocery shopping then picking said daughter UP from her BDay party, those of us still at home raked and cleaned up the back yard. Normally, this would be a torturous chore but we were chatting, throwing leaves at each other and having a bit of fun with it.

We got home late from picking up from the BDay party so we had a very late supper but I took the time to make something special, we watched Walking Dead while we ate and joked around. As tired as I was by then, it was the bright spot of the entire day.

Essentially, we all need to slow down a bit. Life is crazy busy and we often don't take time to slow down to see those little bright tidbits amid all the chaos. One important lesson I've learned is to live in the moment at hand. ABSORB yourself in that event you took your child too, even thought the prep for it was less than easy. FORGET about all other distractions or things you still have to do on your seemingly never-ending 'to-do' list in that moment and enjoy it. FIND the fun in a task or chore that would normally seem grueling. ALLOW yourself to breath for a bit. These things are very important to our overall functioning and well-being.

Because, let's face it. Life will always be crazy in some way. But taking it easy and slowing down once in awhile to enjoy the precious moments that aren't, mean everything.

Happy Monday.

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