From time to time, I'm asked to contribute to a blog or site. It's actually a huge honor, especially if I'm having a particularly frustrating writing day, as it's a small reminder that there are readers out there still interested in what I have to say.
A few months ago, I was asked to write a short with the following prompt:
If you could sit for a few minutes with your younger self, what would you say?
I thought this was really cool, but it's harder than you'd think. What would I say? Would I give advice? Would I put myself on the 'right path' that I am on now? Would I tell me what/who to avoid so that I wouldn't have to go through the crap that I have?
No. If I did any of that, I believe I'd be a very different person now. Plus if I changed anything back then that I apparently had to go through, even though it was tough, it would have affected certain things, events and people I have now. Instead, I decided to have a little chat about how to cope with the hands I was dealt without specifically guiding me another route.
I suggest everyone do this exercise. It's very soothing, believe it or not.
Here is what I shared. I hope you enjoy it. :)
If I could tell you anything, it would be to just be you.
Be prepared to live in an often fast-paced, judgmental, unforgiving world by keeping your sights straight ahead. Everyone is entitled to their opinion as long as it isn’t harmful or disrespectful to others.
Be strong enough to lead your own life, learning from all of the experiences you’ve had and all the influences you’ve had around you. Even the bad ones have something you can learn from.
Be brave enough to face any challenge or hurdle with everything you have inside of you, because there is always something on the other side of that mountain that you can chalk up to your advantage.
Be confident enough to move forward, even when others try to stand in the way of the goal you can see.
Be open enough to listen to other people’s ideas that you can absorb what you can, then leave the rest.
Be ready to fight for what you believe in and are most passionate about, even when others don’t agree.
Be kind to other people, no matter their background or history, as it truly does come back in spades. What goes around, comes around.
Be…you. Because, in the end, without you, the mark you were born to make in the world will be missing.